Why people cheat – and with whom – has all been uncovered, thanks to a massive survey. It was compiled into a book called The Normal Bar, which has been dubbed “the world's most extensive survey on romantic relationships.” That’s because researchers polled over 100,000 people and collecting over 1-million pieces of data. And here are some of the findings:
Your partner is most likely to cheat with someone you know! Not a random stranger, and not someone they picked up at a bar. 60% of infidelity occurs with a coworker. But don’t rule out the people in your social circle. Nearly half of men and a quarter of women are attracted to their partner’s friends and are tempted to act on it. The attraction – with a coworker or friend – has to do with proximity. The more you’re around someone, the more attractive they become to you, and the more opportunity you have to act on your feelings.
It usually happens during a business trip. Forget vacations or bachelor parties. That’s the number one scenario when are people most likely to cheat. Out of everyone who admitted to cheating, 1-out-of-3 took advantage of that setting. Experts say it happens because travelers are lonely and because business trip cheaters don’t think they’ll get caught.
When it comes to women and infidelity – beware of the old flame. That’s a danger zone for women – and of those who cheated on their partner, one-third fell into the arms of an old flame. That’s because women typically cheat for emotional reasons. And someone from a woman’s past is not only familiar, but there are lingering emotional ties there.
So, what’s the biggest reason men cheat on their partner? Boredom. That’s the overwhelming reason given by over 70% of unfaithful men – that their primary relationship has become stale and lifeless.