When it comes to finding “The One," there’s something that matters MORE than good looks, a good job, and a good sense of humor. Researchers say the secret to a lasting relationship is simple: you need to have similar character traits. For example:
First: Temperament. Experts say that people don't change for the most part, what you see is what you get. So if you keep wishing your partner would change, that’s a red flag that they’re not the right person for you. If he’s a hot head who yells and screams at the drop of a hat, but you hate conflict, you’ll never make it. You can’t “fix” someone’s personality.
Then think about how well you get along with each other’s friends and family. You’ll probably be spending birthdays, holidays and vacations with each other’s loved ones. So getting along will be crucial to your relationship. But if one of you is constantly forced to choose between family and the relationship, it’s a losing battle. That person will start to feel isolated and resentful.
Another trait of lasting couples: They have similar lifestyles. Are you a fitness freak and he's a couch potato? Are you a vegan and he's a burger connoisseur? Experts say if your partner’s diet and fitness goals, or lack thereof, clash with yours, then it’ll lead to major clashes in the relationship.
Also you both have to be on the same page when it comes to public displays of affection. Experts say that if one of you wants to hug or kiss in public and that makes the other person antsy, you’re at odds when it comes to intimacy. And that’s one of the keys to a lasting relationship.