Why do we all love a hero? Because it’s hardwired into our DNA. Women are biologically drawn to men who act bravely, and men are wired to want to be a knight in shining armor.
It’s a primal coupling instinct. That’s according to psychiatrist Paul Dobransky, who wrote “The Secret Psychology of How We Fall In Love.”
He says men are biologically compelled to provide for and protect the ones they love. And women are programmed to be drawn to a man who can provide for her and protect her offspring. And if sounds archaic and old-fashioned, that’s because it is. We can’t tell our psyches that this is 2012 and those notions are outdated.
However, because we do live in modern times, there just aren’t as many chances for a guy to save the day. And when you combine that with the fact that men are supposed to suppress their aggressive side, and be more sensitive, there are even fewer opportunities for a guy to be a hero, so when it does happen, it captures out attention.
Like the guy who recently broke up a fight on a New York subway. He’s a 24-year-old architect who stepped in and saved the day, while the whole thing was caught on a cellphone camera. It didn’t hurt that he was handsome, and soon he had fans from all over, his own Facebook fan page, and someone even wrote him a superhero theme song.
So how can we get our superhero, leading man fix more often? Psychiatrist Dr. Dobransky says we don’t need big acts of bravery, it can be as small as your boyfriend killing a spider for you, or lifting a heavy box for a stranger who’s clearly struggling. And if someone does something heroic on your behalf, thank them, and they’ll be more likely to do it again.