The latest thing kids are learning in preschool is NOT to share.
For example, at Barnard College Toddler Center in Manhattan, they have a “no-sharing policy.” It teaches kids that as long as they’re playing with a toy, they don’t have to give it up just because another child wants to play with it.
The policy’s meant to stop the grabbing and whining you often see when kids are in a room-full of toys. But according to the preschool’s director, Tovah Klein, there are other benefits to not sharing. For example:
The policy teaches kids delayed gratification. That’s the term psychologists use for learning to wait. And they say it’s an important skill for kids to learn. Because as adults, we need to know that the world is NOT set up to immediately meet all of our needs.
Also, some exerts say that forcing kids to share leads to a sense of entitlement in the recipient. It makes kids think: “I can have anything I want, because others HAVE to share with me."
And psychologists say that’s a problem employers are seeing with today’s Millennials - who often grew up thinking they were “owed” something.
For example: They may expect to get raises and promotions, just because they show up for work every day. But as you know, that’s not the way the real world works. And if someone wants your iPad, or purse, they can’t just walk up to you and expect you to give it to them.
But as you might guess, many experts say no-sharing policies go too far. Because the goal of sharing isn’t to force kids to share - but to teach them empathy.
So, what do you think? Is it important for kids to learn to share? Or does forcing them to share make kids feel entitled to get anything they want?