Every couple goes through tough times. That’s why they put ‘for better or for worse’ in the vows. The REAL trouble starts when you develop bad habits to get through the difficult times. So, here are the three warning signs that you’re marriage is drifting in the wrong direction, courtesy of Ediets.com. Watch for these signs.
You’ve gone from disagreeing to fighting. When you don’t see eye-to-eye you should be looking for a compromise, not calling names. The urge to say something unkind is a wake-up call. Instead, when you’re angry, blow off steam by exercising or writing in a journal, but don’t GRIPE to your friends and family about the state of your marriage. That’ll only make things worse because they’ll start siding with you and drive a bigger wedge between you and your partner. If you do feel you need to talk to someone about what’s going on – make it a neutral party, like a counselor.
You don’t want to go home. If you’re finding reasons to work late, or run extra chores, it’s time to reconnect with your spouse. Find a couples hobby or schedule a night out each week.
You need to give your relationship CPR if you have trouble talking about your feelings. Your spouse should be the first person you confide in when you’re having trouble at work or get bad news from the doctor. If that’s not the case, it’s time to focus on the things that attracted you to each other in the first place.
To sum up, you have to pay attention to the little things or you risk letting your marriage drift off course. If you compromise, focus on your spouse’s good qualities, and find something you enjoy doing together - you’ll have smooth sailing to your 50th anniversary and beyond.