Is your spouse cheating on you? Technology doesn’t just enable secretive behavior, it’s accelerating it. Computers, cell phones, texting, GPS and social networking sites make it easy for people to turn off to their partner and turn on to someone new. And according to CNN, the #1 danger of Internet infidelity is that it damages emotional ties in your primary relationship, creating a distance.
Dr. Ian Kerner has written extensively about relationships and he says the Internet and digital gadgets create instant gratification and quick connections to others. And before long, that can develop into an emotional relationship.
If you suspect your partner is living a digital double-life, take action because a lot of people wait too long to follow their instincts, and lose their relationship. If you’re concerned, ask yourself these questions:
#1: Does your spouse spend way too much time online or on the phone? And are they secretive about it? For example, are they comfortable leaving their Facebook page open when they’re not sitting at the computer or do they act like they’ve got something to hide?
Another question: Is your spouse in touch with their ex? And does it make you uncomfortable or do you feel like you don’t know what’s going on?
Question #3: If you bring up your concerns, does your partner call you “paranoid” and insist they have a right to privacy?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, Dr. Kerner says your concerns are probably valid. There’s a difference between secrecy and privacy. Privacy is walking into another room when you’re talking to a friend on the phone. Secrecy is taking the phone to the garage so your spouse doesn’t even know you’re making a call.