According to the Beatles song, “All you need is love,” but the most successful couples know that’s just a jumping-off point. If you want your relationship to thrive, there are a few more “must-haves” every marriage needs. Here they are, courtesy of Woman’s Day magazine.

  • A joke no one else shares. Without a sense of humor – you’re doomed. When it’s a personal, inside joke - that strengthens your bond. Maybe you have a secret word for something, or weird nicknames that don’t make any sense – to anyone but you. When you share something that’s just between the two of you, it makes you feel unified.
  • To have a great relationship you need a great photo of the two of you. Your wedding photo doesn’t count – and neither do snaps with the kids. It can be anything from a goofy candid shot to a vacation photo. Just make sure it’s only the two of you and less than five years old. This shows your commitment to remaining a couple.
  • An acceptance of your differences. When you were dating, you probably talked ad nauseum about your likes and dislikes – whether or not you shared the same ones. Well – that shouldn’t change after you tie the knot. Now, you should be willing to try the things your partner likes at least twice. You may discover that you actually enjoy your partner’s pastime or favorite food – and at the very least you’ll understand them better.
  • A fair fight. You won’t always agree, but that doesn’t mean you have to yell and sling insults. If you’re upset with your spouse, try this: Don’t argue. Wait a day and then ask each other to rate the issue’s importance on a scale of 1 to 10. If it’s five or higher for either of you – talk about it. If it’s lower, let it go. This’ll help you respect each other’s opinion, even if you don’t agree.