Modern dating is ruined by having too many choices!
That’s the conclusion of a new study we’ve read about, showing that the more dating options people have, the less likely they are to find someone they like.
Take the popular trend of speed-dating. Common sense says that the more people you meet, the more likely you are to find a good match. But statistics show that when the number of people attending speed-dating events goes up, the number of people actually going out on dates goes down.
Why would that happen? Dr. Barry Schwartz is a psychologist who wrote the book The Paradox of Choice. He says the problem boils down to feeling overwhelmed by too many options. Think about it: If you have 40 potential dates to choose from, and the first person you go out with turns out to be a bust, then you’re going to feel unsatisfied. You’re also going to wonder about the missed opportunities you had with the 39 other people you didn’t choose.
And studies back that up. They show that the more choices we have, the harder it is to choose – and when we finally do choose, the less satisfied we are because we keep second-guessing ourselves.
So whether you're speed dating or online dating - you may get so overwhelmed by the potential dating pool that you never choose anyone - or second guess the choice you do make.
But back in simpler times when your dating pool was only girls in your high school, instead of girls from all over the city, it was easier to find someone you could be happy with.
So the lesson is... don’t look over endless options. Simply choose someone you think you click with. Then, eventually you may find someone you’ll want to spend your life with.