Is divorce getting more civilized? It just might be.
These days, a lot of couples aren’t losing their temper, fighting over money or the kids. Instead, they’re settling things with a mediator and then throwing a party for all their friends to celebrate their new, separate lives.
Take designer Douglas Hannat. He split with his partner of 20 years and they threw a party for 100 friends.
Another example? Billionaire Charles Bronfman and his wife Bonnie threw a soiree to commemorate their divorce. They told guests “As we change the parameters of our relationship, our mutual admiration and caring remains constant.”
And Christine Gallagher is a divorce party planner in LA who says the business has exploded. She says, for her clients it’s cathartic. It’s a way of saying, “The End” in a positive way.
Experts are saying, this is a natural evolution. Now that divorce is mainstream, it’s not as devastating as it once was.
Andrew Cherlin is a professor at Johns Hopkins who wrote the book, “The Marriage Go Round,” and he says, 50 years ago, divorce had a terrible stigma. It was the end of the world – and women, especially, were looked at as failures. People thought there must be something wrong with them if they couldn’t keep a husband.
But today, divorce is more friendly. Divorced families vacation together. They help each other out. They do their best to remain respectful. But a happy divorce takes work – just like a happy marriage.
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