Love isn’t blind - but it can blindside you! Of all the decisions you make in your life, none will be as important as deciding who you’ll marry. There’s nothing more satisfying than a good marriage, but a bad choice can wreak havoc with your life and cause years of unhappiness. Never fear! I have the secrets for avoiding a bad marriage, courtesy of Psychology Today.
There are 5 areas that form the glue that holds healthy relationships together. They are: Love, trust, commitment, intimacy and attachment. Just meeting someone you like and rushing ahead isn’t enough. You need to pace yourself and not let any one of those 5 areas get in front of another. Because if you make a commitment before you know you can really trust and rely on a person, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
The same applies for getting emotionally involved. You shouldn’t tell your innermost feelings to someone just because you feel an attraction and chemistry. Take the time to see if they’ll be there for you day in and day out. Look at how your potential mate handles family, friends, and coworkers. In other words, take the time to really get to know your partner before taking the plunge. Otherwise you’ll minimize problems in order to sustain the good feelings you have. But the trouble is, problems don’t magically go away – they just cause BIGGER problems in the long run.
So what’s the take home message? If you want a good marriage you have to follow your heart AND your mind to the altar. And here, again, are the 5 things that glue relationships together: Love, trust, commitment, intimacy, and attachment.