Three out of four teens have a cell phone, and a huge majority of those teens are talking or texting with their parents at least once a day. Well now scientists are trying to figure out how cell phone use affects the parent-child relationship. It turns out that when kids are the ones to initiate phone calls, both parent and child report having a close relationship AND higher levels of self-esteem. However, when the parent initiates the call and uses the phone to monitor their child’s whereabouts, the relationship was more likely to be strained.

That doesn’t mean you should stop checking up on your kids though. A recent study shows that children who think of their parents more like friends and less like authority figures are THREE TIMES more likely to have a serious drinking problem.