A lot of today’s new college grads don’t have basic life skills and can’t solve their own problems. And their helicopter parents are to blame. That’s according to behavioral science professor, Chris Segrin, from the University of Arizona.
Professor Segrin says, helicopter parents think their extremely over-involved parenting style will help their kids thrive in today’s super competitive world. So they swoop in and help their child overcome every obstacle or setback - and they’ve become accustomed to doing everything from calling their child’s teachers to contest a bad grade to arguing with a sports coach if their child doesn’t get enough game time, to calling a prospective employer to negotiate a starting salary – for their kid.
But experts say that despite their good intentions - the huge problem is that the kids never learn to face obstacles or develop coping skills. So when they get out in the real world, they’re helpless.
In fact, a new University of Arizona study of 1-thousand young adults found that half of them communicate with their parents once a day. And 1 in 4 reach out several times every day. Researchers say most of the conversations are “How do I (blank)?” Or “Can you do (blank) for me?”
And the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology says that Millennial children of helicopter parents are extremely anxious and narcissistic.
So, what’s the fix? Helicopter parents – it doesn’t matter if your child is in elementary school or just graduated from college – back off. Experts say let them figure out tough issues on their own. Like how to apply for jobs, pay their cellphone bill, and even book airline tickets. That’s the only way kids learn to deal with problems and setbacks – and bounce back – is to struggle and fail once in a while.