Believe it or not, the modern North American or European woman is just as likely to two-time her husband as he is to do it to her.
That's the word from a team of German researchers at the Hamburg-based GEWIS Institute for Social Research. According to Reuters, in a survey of over 1400 men and women, 53 percent of women said they'd been unfaithful compared with 59 percent of men.
When women first stray from their husbands, experts say they're seeking reassurance and understanding. In other words, they're looking for emotional intimacy.
And more women than men were guilty of repeatedly breaking their vows. We're talking about more than 3 or 4 times during the marriage.
But what's the really scary part? According to psychologist Shirley P. Glass, it's that infidelity can happen to good people in good marriages. Here are the three primary factors she says are to blame:
- Friendships at work
- Child-centered marriages
- Intimate Internet conversations
She says that intimacy in the workplace is likely to be between colleagues who are working closely on a project. And these people often are in happy marriages. Glass also blames what she calls "child-centered marriages" where couples focus all their energy on their kids' lives and neglect their own. And she points to the Internet, where people exchanging intimacies through e-mail don't think of it as real betrayal.
Glass also says it's happening a lot these days because there's more proximity and opportunity than ever before.
If you'd like to go further, you can pick up her book. It's called, "Not Just Friends: Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal."