According to Rodale Publishing, there's a lesson a lot of people need to learn. A conversation is a dialogue, not a monologue. That means both of you should be talking. Your date tells a story, you respond with a follow up question, and tell a story of your own. Seems simple, I know. But you'd be amazed how often this goes wrong. So here are some fool-proof conversation starters and some conversation killers. First, the starters:
- Do you travel much?
- Is your family close? Remember family members names for future reference.
- What were you like in high school?
- That's a great bracelet / necklace / earrings / shoes. Where did you get them? Or for a man, ask That's a great tie / jacket / watch - Where did you get it?
Now for the conversation killers. Do not say any of the following if you want a second date:
- "Let me explain to you the difference between seed and venture capital." You're her date, not her financial planner.
- "Do you know how long I've been waiting to ask you out?" Or, "Do you know how long I've been waiting for you to ask me out?" Hello desperate!
- Another conversation killer "Do you know Bill Watson?" Or any other name. This conversation should be about you two, not who you know.
- Your ex files. Do not bring up your ex on a first date, no matter what.