Okay, ladies – it’s time to translate a little guy-speak. Specifically? The phrases men use when they break up – and what they really mean:

  • “It’s not you, it’s me.” Well, actually, it is you. As in, you’re not “The One.” Dr. Scott Haltzman wrote the book The Secrets of Happily Married Men. And he says it’s a classic excuse that men use to soften the blow. The good news is, he wouldn’t bother being nice if he didn’t respect you - but it’s not a love match for him.
  • “I need my space”? He needs some space! Dr. Haltzman says it could mean that your relationship is getting too serious, too fast, or maybe you’re just coming on too strong. Giving him space may make him realize he can’t live without you. But more likely, if it was true love, he wouldn’t need space at all.
  • “I just don’t have time for a relationship right now.” What he’s really saying is: I’m just not that into you. Bottom line: No matter how busy a man’s schedule is, if you’re the one for him, he’ll fit you in. End of story.
  • “You’re too good for me.” What he really means is he’s not good boyfriend material, and he knows it. Dr. Haltzman says that people tend to overestimate their value. So, if a man claims he’s not worth your time, he’s flat-out telling you he doesn’t have what it takes to make a relationship work - and probably doesn’t believe in things like honesty, trust, and fidelity. So, if a man says, “You’re too good for me,” do yourself a favor, and believe him.