You’ve probably seen it happen. Somebody walks into a room, and instantly becomes the center of attention. It’s a quality called charisma. Some people have it naturally. But anybody can become more charismatic. Here’s how:
First: Turn off your cell phone. Charismatic people know that giving other people their full attention makes others feel like they’re the most important person in the world. So, they never take calls or send texts when they’re in a group.
Another way to boost your charisma: Make listening your top priority. Studies show that the salesmen who say the least are always the most successful. And other research shows that we react more positively to people who make eye contact, nod, and smile while we’re talking.
Also, praise others. Olivia Fox Cabane wrote the book, How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism. And she says that when you praise another person’s good deeds and successes, they’ll see you in a favorable light. Basically, like a rubber ball – compliments bounce off the person they’re given to and come back to you.
Another way to boost your charisma: NEVER gossip. Peter Post wrote The Etiquette Advantage in Business. And he says some people think that gossiping helps them bond with others. But the message you’re actually sending is that you can’t be trusted.
Finally: Show your emotions. Experts say that we tend to rate people more highly when they display their true feelings, instead of keeping their emotions inside. Plus, a University of California study found that we connect strongly with people who are emotionally honest. And it takes less than 2 minutes for us to feel exactly the same way they do.