Could your boss be bad for your relationship? If they behave rudely and abusively, the answer’s definitely “Yes.” 

Management expert Dawn Carlson’s research shows that couples have more arguments when one of them has a bad work supervisor. Of course, it’s no surprise that walking on eggshells at work makes people edgy when they get home. But the problem is incredibly common, with almost half of all workers saying they’ve had to put up with an abusive supervisor. So, here are 3 ways to keep your boss from ruining your home life:

  • First: Talk to your partner. Lynn Taylor is the author of Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant. And she says discussing the issue will help make sure your partner understands that the tension at home isn’t about the two of you. And knowing that your partner has your back will help you feel better about going to work every day. 

  • Another way to keep the boss from hurting your home life: Schedule your family activities. Studies show that we’re more likely to do something if it’s written on a calendar. And research shows that the more time we spend with our family, the less likely we are to be affected by work issues. That’s because the emotional support we get buffers us against the negativity of a toxic work environment. 

  • Finally: Recommit to your relationship. Our management expert says that the couples who’ve been together the longest are the least likely to be affected by a bad boss. That’s because most long-term couples have weathered enough storms to understand that if they put their relationship first, outside factors can’t do any permanent damage.