Ladies, wanna meet “The One?” Then, stop waiting for fate to drop him in your lap, and go find him. That’s the upshot of a new book from relationship expert Matthew Hussey called “Get the Guy.” 

In the book, Hussey asks: How many new men do you meet in an average week, where you make eye contact and have an actual conversation, not just ordering a soy latte or saying “hi” to the mailman. If you only meet one or two men a week, how long do you think it’ll take to find Mr. Right? 

  • So if you want to increase your chances, the book suggests chatting with the men you do business with, like waiters, salesmen, and the UPS guy. It’s great practice, especially if you’re shy, because it’s part of their job to talk to you. And make it a point to find out one thing, like their name, or what they do on weekends. 

  • Then, to become more confident talking to strangers you aren’t doing business with, talk to everyone you meet, including men, women, children, and old people. For one thing, every interaction with another human being increases the odds you’ll meet the love of your life. And the more you talk to strangers, the more confident you’ll be, and the less likely you’ll be nervous when you finally come face to face with someone you’re attracted to.  

  • Another tip: Compliment 3 people a day. Our expert says that hats and eyeglasses are good, because it forces you to look them in the eye. 

  • Finally: Vow to talk to two new men on the way to work every day for the next year. If you meet Mr. Right on day 50, it won’t be luck, even if your friends think it was. It’ll be because you put yourself out there. 

If you’d like to go further, the book is "Get the Guy." Or follow "Get The Guy" on Twitter for a daily tip to help you meet more guys.