Statistics show that adults in their 50s and beyond are the fastest growing segment of online daters! Experts say it’s because more people are divorced, and we’re living longer. In fact, 100 years ago, a person was lucky to live past age 47! So here’s what you need to know before you log on to find love over 50. This is according to psychologist Dr. Eli Finkel:
First: There’s no one dating site that’s better than the others. In fact, studies show that people are no more or less successful using mainstream sites, like eHarmony, than they are using smaller sites, like SeniorPeopleMeet.com. But one thing that does influence people is which site their friends are using.
Also you must post a current picture online, even if it shows all your wrinkles. Dr. Finkel says don’t be worried about looking your age because posting a photo boosts the odds that you’ll be contacted by 15 times.
Another tip about online dating after 50: Forget the “rules” people use in their 20s and 30s. The advice used to be that you should play hard to get. But that isn't the case when you’re older. Dr. Finkel says if someone contacts you online, respond sooner rather than later. And say something specific about the person's profile, like: “Thanks for contacting me. It looks like we both enjoy tennis and sushi. Tell me more about yourself”.
Why be so direct? Dr. Finkel says it’s because older daters are more likely to know what they want. Everyone’s been around the block once or twice, so they tend to be more realistic about relationships, and have less tolerance for playing games. Plus Dr. Finkel says if they’re online, it means they likely value being happy over being alone.