Trying to get over a broken heart? The experts say you should get on with your life! Because people who dwell on the heartache, end up feeling worse! A new study in Clinical Psychological Science found that people who thought about, and wrote about, their breakup kept revisiting the painful moments, brooding about how bad they felt, and wallowing in “what-ifs.” And eight months later, their hearts had healed half as much, compared to people who focused on their daily activities. Because finding new ways to spend your time, forces you to think practically, and find out who you are outside your former relationship. To help you do that, try this advice:

  • Set a limit on your daily “poor me” time. Researchers say to limit your wallowing to, say, 30 minutes a day. Or tell yourself, “I can only think about this at home.” Even better? Try, “I can only think about this while I’m exercising.” Defining when you can and can’t wallow will let you concentrate on moving on, even while you’re still processing your feelings.

  • Toss the pictures and mementos. Lisa Steadman, who’s the author of It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown, says that having reminders of your ex everywhere you look can literally keep you from letting go. If you can’t bear to toss the reminders of the past, stick them in a box out of sight. Research also shows that keeping tabs on your ex on Facebook can derail your breakup recovery. So, do yourself a favor, and “unfriend” your ex, immediately.

  • Skip the post-breakup pig-out. Because comfort food can literally give you a blue mood! A study in the International Journal of Obesity found that after a brief sugar rush, your mood will be even lower than before. Instead, treat yourself to vitamin-rich foods like wild salmon, tomatoes, and beets. Because they’re packed with vitamin D, folate, and omega-3 fatty acids which will improve your mood.