Ladies, here’s the answer to that question you’ve been wondering about. Why do men insist on quoting Caddy Shack? Or Scarface? Or in my case Napoleon Dynamite? Well, it all boils down to the way a man communicates. So here are some answers from Dr. Alon Gratch, clinical psychologist and author of the book “If Men Could Talk”.
- First, the Caddy Shack references. Those endless movie quotes come out for two reasons. One: It’s efficient. Why struggle for something to say when someone else has already said it better? When you mess up at work – what better way to acknowledge it than with a well timed Homer Simpson “D’oh!” Reason number two: It’s something to hide behind. Sometimes real-life conversations put us in an awkward place emotionally. So if we’re concerned about a friend’s feelings, we might invoke Tom Cruise from Top Gun and say, “Talk to me, Goose.” That’s more comfortable for a man to say than “Hey Scott, you seem down. Let’s talk about it.”
- Why do guys talk sports so much? Again, a few reasons. First, it’s a competitive thing between guys. We want to know more than the guy next to us. It makes us feel superior. Reason number two: It helps us bond. A man can go to any country in the world and start talking sports and instantly bond. Sports transcend race, culture, education, and social class.
- Why do guys make fun of each other all the time? Again, two reasons. One: It’s easier to make a joke out of something than to face it head on. Let’s say your buddy is dressed in a ridiculous sweater before you head out together. Instead of saying, “Scott, you’re going to embarrass me”. We say, “Hey Scott, Bill Cosby called and he wants his sweater back!” Humor defuses an awkward situation and makes it easier to handle. Reason number two: Guys joke to be the head honcho. The person making others laugh is the person in control. It also distracts from being made fun of yourself.
So ladies, now you know the secrets behind male communication.