You might accuse them of doing things that aren’t completely true. According to Spirituality and Health magazine, our negative feelings about a person interferes with our sense of judgment. Here’s the deal.
Researchers at Cornell University told a group of volunteers a story about a man who “dined and dashed” on a restaurant tab. BUT – half of the group was told the man was a “jerk who liked to steal” - and the others were told that he left because of a family emergency. A week later, the researchers asked the group if they remembered how much the restaurant bill totaled. The results? Those who thought the customer was a thief recalled the unpaid tab being 10 to 25% HIGHER than it actually was. But those who believed he left because of an emergency – and thought his actions were justifiable - remembered the bill accurately or slightly LOWER than it was. And get this - the more a person thought the guy was a jerk, the higher they remembered the tab. Lesson learned? Don’t be so quick to assign blame to someone you don’t like. YOU might be the one in the wrong.