Psychology Today says these types of thoughts aren't uncommon. In fact, they're very normal-- So with that in mind, here are some of the most common "I'm-such-a-lousy-person" thoughts - those we don't wanna admit to having, but that we shouldn't beat ourselves up about-- Emotional rubbernecking: This is what they call when someone's secretly proud to claim a personal connection to a tragedy--They feel the need to tell people how upset they are that friend of a friend died in a plane crash. But secretly, they just want the attention--So why jump on the bandwagon when the bandwagon's a hearse? Psychologists say that identifying with a tragic even makes someone feel important. And the closer they are to those who suffered, the more they "win." Schedenfreude: It's a German term that means being happy about someone else's misfortunes - such as wanting Martha Stewart to go to jail because she annoys you--Psychologists say this actually makes perfect sense. When others fail, that means more opportunities for us--But what about the joy you get from seeing a FRIEND fail? They say this happens because we don't want our friends to be more successful than we are, or even AS successful. Again   we want to be the "winner"-- And one last thought people have that they don't wanna share with others: Grief relief. Feeling better when someone you love   someone who's been suffering - passes on, because you can finally get back to your own life--Psychologists say having this feeling doesn't mean you love the person any less, it just means you're ready to focus your energy and emotions on the future. And they say about 75% of people go through this-- Bottom line: If you've had any of these thoughts, you're not alone. So don't beat yourself up about it. Experts say forget about it, fess up or laugh it off. You're not going to be doomed to eternal suffering--