This won’t be a shock to many people, but a recent survey found that the #1 complaint women have about men is that men don’t listen! See, the fact is most guys WANT to be the perfect conversation partner, but some women pick the absolute worst time to have a deep, meaningful conversation! So here are three tips for women, to help get your guy to communicate better! These come from Yahoo.com.
- Pick the right time because guys need their down time just like women do. The wrong time to hit him with “we need to talk” is in the hour after he gets home from work, when he’s still unwinding from the stress of the day. It’s also a bad idea to have deep discussions at bedtime – when both of you should be focusing on sleep! So experts say the best time to talk is after dinner, when you’re settling down for dessert, or a favorite TV show. You might also send him a text message or e-mail during the day, letting him know what’s on your mind. That way he’ll have time to collect his thoughts BEFORE the verbal sparring begins.
- If you can’t talk at home: Get your man to open up on a road trip. Psychologists say that when couples are face to face, some guys feel like cornered-animals – because of all the intense eye contact and close scrutiny. However, when you’re side by side in a car, you have the best chance of getting his undivided attention. Why? Because when a man is driving, he feels in control and confident and ready to tackle any challenge you throw his way.
- Embrace his need to fix things. The fact is, most guys communicate with a handyman mentality. They think: “You’ve got problems? Then I’ve got answers!” This can lead to frustration for women, who are just looking for a sympathetic ear, or to vent. So experts say it’s important to talk with a “team” mentality. Speak your mind, and then let him be the MVP who brainstorms a way out of your mess. Bottom line: The more you let a guy feel like he’s helping, the more he’ll open up to you.