Do you remember why you first fell in love and got married? More importantly: Does your spouse? Between work, bills, and kids, it’s easy to lose track of the things that used to make your relationship strong. So try these tips from MSN, and reclaim your title as Spouse of the Year!
- Take an interest in something that matters to your spouse. It’ll not only boost their confidence, but you’ll also get a deeper insight into what makes them tick! So, if your wife loves sewing, ask her why – what’s the best thing she ever made – or what she’d like to tackle next. You may not care about sewing – but it’s about caring about your spouse, not sewing.
- Another way to win points with your loved one: Apologize. “Sorry” is an easy word to say, but a harder one to mean. When you’re wrong about something, it’s smart to step up and say so. You’ll be amazed how many arguments you can avoid with a sincere: “I’m sorry.” Just know this: Saying, “I’m sorry you’re upset” isn’t an apology, because you’re not taking the blame.
- Also, drop a few extra “thank yous” into your relationship. Like, occasionally saying “Thank you for putting up with my bad habits.” Or “Thanks for being so easy to talk to.” It may seem obvious, but expressing your feelings will remind both of you why you ended up together in the first place.
- Act like you’re still dating. Remember how you always tried to make a good impression just to win her over? Why’d you stop after saying “I do”? So, hold the door when you head out to dinner and stop belching every time you reach for the remote. Marriage can get comfy, but it doesn’t have to get gross and rude.
- Every now and then, take a vacation from each other! In other words, plan a camping trip with the guys or a ‘girls only’ weekend. Time apart will give you both a chance to recharge your batteries and catch up with your old friends. It’ll also remind you how lucky you are to have a loving spouse waiting for you back home. That alone should inspire you to be a better partner when you return.