Are too many women looking for fairy tale romances? According to Lori Gottleib, the answer is yes. She’s the author of the book Marry Him: The Case for Mr. Good Enough. In the book, she says women get their ideas of what “Mr. Right” is supposed to be like from movies and television, and they spend their twenties and early thirties dissing men who might be pretty good, and holding out for a fantasy guy who doesn’t exist. According to Gottleib, these women end up over 40 and alone while their friends are getting married and having kids. She says women need to get over the “Mr. Right” fantasy and realize that men can have faults and still be marriage material. The sooner they do that, the sooner they can find a guy they can spend the rest of their lives with. Gottleib says passion and romance should come second to finding a guy who’s just a plain old good guy.
However, a lot of women aren’t too pleased with Gottleib’s assessment that they should “settle” for a man. Take Newsweek columnist, Julia Baird. She says there’s no reason for women to settle for a humdrum marriage to a boring guy, just so they can buy a white dress or have kids. She says, sure, some women are too picky and they think Mr. Right has to ride in on a white horse and sweep them off their feet, but the majority of women who stay single into their forties didn’t do it because they couldn’t find a man. They stayed single because they were concentrating on their education or their careers. There’s nothing wrong with waiting for what you want, as long as you’re prepared to never find it.