You know you’re a great catch! So why are you still single? According to Match.com, YOU might be your own worst enemy.
Here are a few ways people unwittingly sabotage their own love life – make sure you aren’t doing any of these!
- First: They’re too quick to decide whether they’re interested……In today’s fast-paced culture, people have a bad habit of deciding whether someone’s right for them in about 3 seconds. But think about it – do YOU always make a great first impression? So here are 2 rules to follow: Rule #1……Don’t make any decisions about someone until after a cup of coffee. The whole thing - not just the first two sips. You should be able to talk to anyone for as long it takes to drink a latte……And adopt a second-date rule. If you like the person, even just a little bit, make plans to see them again. At that point, they’ll be more relaxed and their true personality will come out.
- Another dating no-no: Using your ex as a blueprint. If you find yourself comparing each potential love interest to your former flame, you might still have feelings for them - and that can make it hard to focus on someone new.
- Remember, there’s a reason why you broke up. Even if it wasn’t something you wanted, there was something about your ex that made them feel you weren’t “the one”. The bottom line: You HAVE to disconnect from your ex for anybody else to stand a chance. So the next time you start thinking how great your ex was, counter that thought with something you didn’t like.
- And one last way you might be sabotaging your love life: By being a complainer. If your conversations on dates always turn to your dimwit boss or your dysfunctional relatives – beware. There aren’t many people who enjoy hanging out with someone who gripes about everything……So get over yourself! Remember, this person is your date – not your therapist. If you stick to more positive stories, you’ll have a much fuller social calendar.