Okay, ladies – has your boyfriend popped the question? Congratulations! Is he showing signs of cold feet? Then here’s a little insight into the factors guys use to decide whether they’re ready to say “I do” or “I don’t.” These tips come from iVillage.com:
- How do you handle stress? In other words, when things go wrong, do you freak out, or do you roll with the punches? Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful times in a person’s life – and if you’re turning into some kind of Bridezilla, he’ll be wondering if you’re really “The One.” Face it, if you freak out over flowers – what’ll happen when something really serious happens?
- Do you plan too far into the future? Of course, marriage is all about spending the rest of your lives together, but getting married is a huge step. Your husband-to-be may not be ready to go right from choosing wedding invitations, to picking out names for your children, and planning the drapes you’ll hang in the house you don’t even have yet. It’s okay to have long-term goals – and to talk about them – but try to take one big step at a time.
- Another factor in your fiancé’s decision to go ahead with the wedding: Is he involved in the wedding plans? Face it, a lot of women have been planning the perfect wedding day since they were 9 years old. Remember: It’s HIS day, too, and if he doesn’t think you’ll consider his likes and dislikes for the WEDDING – he may wonder if you’ll consider his likes and dislikes about ANYTHING after you’re married.
- Don’t get caught up in comparing your ring, your wedding, or your husband-to-be with anyone else’s. Think about it: He’ll be hurt if you complain that your engagement ring isn’t as big as your sister’s. He’ll notice if the only reason you want a designer wedding dress or huge cascades of flowers because your best friend had them. A wedding shouldn’t be about one-upping other people. What you should be showing off is your commitment to each other. A rock solid relationship will be the envy of everyone more-so than a huge rock on your finger.