That's the word from Dr. Allen Parkman of the University of New Mexico. But he's not talking about diamonds and pearls. Parkman says it's the lack of emotional gifts like empathy, respect and affection that does a marriage in.
But it's hard for women to predict how understanding and considerate their hubby will be years down the road. That's why divorce rates have skyrocketed in the last 50 years. When wives realize they've overestimated their husband's emotional capabilities, they bail.
Parkman says that couples can tell where the marriage is going over a bottle of wine at dinner. If the husband listens to the wife, and vise-versa, during the whole bottle that's a gift, and a sign that the marriage is good.
But if the husband turns the wife off and the TV on before the wine is finished, it leaves little doubt where his priorities lie. Guys a word to the wise? Listen to the very last drop.