Love & Relationships

There’s nothing like falling in love, but staying in love takes work. So, here’s how to steer clear of trouble courtesy of relationship expert Dr. Terri Orbuch:

• Do the little things right. Everyone focuses on big issues, but little actions are what build trust. Be on time, keep your promises, and whatever you do, don’t lie!  Even white lies like, “I thought I did take the garbage out,” send your spouse the message that they can’t rely on you.
• Spend at least five minutes a day talking about something other than work, schedules and kids. Many couples assume that handling daily tasks is communicating, but true communication means sharing your goals, thoughts and dreams.
• Get straight on money and chores. Every month, go over your short and long-term financial goals. That makes it easier for both of you to make small daily sacrifices. Also, check in on household tasks. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, say so and ask for help.  
• Don’t raise your voice. If you disagree, remain calm and use “I” statements. For example: “I could really use some help around the house,” is better than, “You’re a slob!” Remember: Every marriage needs regular maintenance. So, spend time together and fight fair. That way your relationship will be in top shape when a big issue comes down the pike.