U.S. couples go on 155 million romantic getaways every year. And for a new couple, there’s no better test of compatibility than taking a trip together.
You may uncover negatives, like his impatience with traffic or the 11 pairs of shoes she needs for one weekend trip. You may also discover charming qualities. But when you travel, your companion is in your space all the time. And according to relationship psychologist Dr. Linda deVillers, author of the book “Love Skills”, that can magnify everything. So here’s your step by step guide to getting through your trip with the relationship in tact:
- Start small. Early in a relationship, a shorter trip is best. Long trips raise expectations, cost more, and represent a commitment. So put a 3-day limit on your first trip. Pick a place that’s no more than 4 hours away that has plenty of activities.
- Discuss expectations. The talk doesn’t have to be some big emotional thing. but talk about what you both want out of the trip. If she wants romantic walks on the beach and you want to golf, you both need to know that. Don’t make an issue out of it. Just make sure both expectations are met.
- You both may have different outlooks on money and it could ruin the trip. If he wants to eat the free continental breakfast the hotel provides, and thinks it’s wasteful that you want to sample the local cuisine, it could be a huge fight waiting to happen. Split costs as equally as possible without having it dominate the experience. But work it out ahead of time!
- Go solo for an hour each day. Do go for an hour-long jog on the beach. Don’t take a 6-hour scuba diving training course and abandon your girlfriend. Your best bet is to split up, then get back together at a designated time and compare notes.