Love & Relationships

Ladies, if you’re out on the town with your girlfriends at a club, a coffee shop or a party - don’t make these mistakes when a cute guy catches your eye. We found these tips at iVillage .com:

• You disconnect. If you’re not interested, it’s okay to pull back a bit so you can make your escape. But if you’re toning it down because you’re afraid you’re being too forward – don’t! Here’s the thing: guys don’t “get” subtle. If you’re outgoing for 10 minutes, and suddenly back off to give him a chance to take the lead – he won’t think you’re coy, he’ll just think he’s getting the brushoff. Also, men don’t like interruptions. So, if you’re leaving the room every 20 minutes to connect with your friends, invite him to join you. Otherwise you may find him chatting up someone else when you get back.
• You pay attention to other guys. Of course, a man will want to know later whether you get along with his friends and his mother. But right now, all he cares is that you get along with him. So, be friendly to everyone - especially his friends. But monitor your tone so he understands that the way you’re acting with him is special and different from how you act with men in general. Bottom line: He wants to believe he’s the only man in the room you’re interested in.
• You confuse flirting with fighting. Men don’t understand it when women pick playful fights to show they’re interested. To him, the arguments and biceps punches just mean you’re hostile.
• You complain about your life. Women bond by talking about life’s little details. But men bond by watching sports and talking about nothing. So, if you trot out a laundry list of things he thinks he’ll have to fix later, you’re not making a good first impression. If you’d like to go further, check out the book written by two bartenders who’ve seen it all when it comes to meeting and dating: You Didn’t Hear It from Us.