But Do You Really Want Her Back?
You and your girlfriend broke up, or you and your boyfriend, you're in misery, you can't sleep, all the sad songs on the radio are torturing you, but do you really want her back?
Well, before you launch your 'let's get back together' plan, ask yourself two questions. This comes from John DeLamater, professor of sociology at the University of Wisconsin.
- First, for the relationship to work, would one of you have to change a major personality trait? If that's the case, the professor says it's easier to change the relationship and find someone new than to change a person's personality.
- Second, ask yourself: Are you positive you want your ex back, or do you just miss having a relationship and a guaranteed date every Saturday night? To answer that, make a list of all the qualities you'd be hard pressed to find in another person. The longer the list, the more motivated you should be to work things out. If there are only 3 items on the list? Move on.
