Would you like your kids to be honest, upstanding citizens? Well, who wouldn't! Here's how to raise moral kids in an immoral world, courtesy of Dr. T. Berry Brazelton and Family Circle magazine:
- First, give your kids heroes to look up to: Teachers and coaches who really care, nurses who take the time to listen, cashiers who tell you to have a great day, and the police officers, firefighters, paramedics and soldiers who risk their lives to make our world a better place.
- The next tip for raising moral kids: Teach them to do the right thing by doing the right thing, yourself. If they point out that other people behave differently, say something like: "Maybe they do, but that's not acceptable behavior in our family!"
- You also need to set limits! It establishes the line between right and wrong, and helps kids feel safe and cherished. It also says to them: "I love you enough to say what you need to hear, even if it upsets you." Kids also need to know how their actions affect others. So, when your child acts up, ask them: "If you hit your friend, do you think he'll want to play with you again?"
- Finally, when it comes to raising honest, upstanding children, have family meetings at least once a week. And let everyone talk about their feelings, and about fairness, sharing and getting along. Not only will it help you deal with problems before they get out of hand. But by respectfully listening to your children's woes and opinions, you'll teach them to respect the views of people they don't agree with, either.