Love isn't all you need. At least when it comes to having a happy relationship. In fact, in an article from "Psychology Today", Pepper Schwartz a professor of sociology, used a study of 21 thousand couples to show some concrete things, besides love, that happy relationships have, and the rocky ones lack.
- First on the list, good listening skills. 83% of people who were happy in their relationships said they had partners who were good listeners. Only 18% of people who were in unhappy relationships said their partner was a good listener.
- Another big factor in relationship happiness: Feeling understood. Again pretty dramatic differences here. 79% of happy couples felt like their partner understood their feelings. Only 13% of unhappy couples felt this way.
- Next on the list: Spending time together. The healthy couples felt they had a good balance of spending leisure time together and apart. But only 17% of unhappy couples felt like they were good at this.
- Now, I know you knew this one was coming: Money, money, money. Financial issues can make or break a couple. But if you can talk openly about money and make plans together, you've got a better chance of surviving. 80% of the couples who said they were happy found that making financial decisions together was easy. Only 32% of unhappy couples felt it was easy to do. Bottom line, yes love is important, but it's not everything.