That's the word from the book Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, from psychotherapist and author Lois Frankel. She says women make unconscious mistakes that can sabotage their career. Here are 3 of the biggest mistakes, and some easy fixes:
- Mistake #1 Don't share too much personal information. It could be used against you later. For instance, don't tell your boss how hard it is to take care of your elderly mother since nobody else will help and your husband is out of a job. They might think you can't handle stress, and pass you over when it comes to promotions. Instead, if your boss asks why you seem distracted, be honest but brief. It's enough to say "I'm going through a rough time, but my job is important. And I'll try to pay more attention to the details."
- Mistake #2 Don't be too modest. If you pulled off an important project, even when you didn't have enough time, or enough people, don't say, "Oh, it was nothing." Your boss might give you even more work next time! Instead, look them in the eye and say, "Thank you. My team and I worked really hard, and we're proud. I'm delighted you're pleased."
- And the final mistake nice girls make at the office is: Don't pose a statement as a question. Women often do this as a safe way to present an idea without seeming too pushy. But instead it makes you seem wishy-washy. Also, if you ask "Do you think we should budget more money for development?" If they agree, it's now their idea. But if you say, "I think we need to budget more money for development" it's your idea - And even if they disagree, you're coming from a place of power, and will be more able to defend your position.