Even if you adore your in-laws...

you probably get a little upset over their occasional pieces of unsolicited advice - on everything from how to raise you kids to the cleanliness of your kitchen--Well, there's good news and there's bad news.
The bad news is - they're not gonna change. But the good news is that you can adjust your behavior so their criticisms don't sting as much. Here are 3 strategies we found at www.LifetimeTV.com. They come from family therapist, Tina Tessina.
  1. Give them the benefit of the doubt. It may not seem like it at the time, but most critical comments are well intentioned - even if they are misguided. People usually don't deliberately set out to make others feel bad. Your in-laws are probably trying to be helpful - they're just not good at it. So their comments come out sounding critical.
  2. Keep your private life private. The more you tell your in-laws about your life and marriage, the more ammunition they'll have. So keep a healthy distance, and don't give them any information they might be tempted to use against you.
And a final tip for disarming your butt-in-ski in-laws.
Humor them by seeking their advice on a topic you choose - one that won't push your emotional buttons. And it doesn't matter what you ask - the key is that you're including them in your life. In-laws tend to get pushy if they feel like they're being shut out. But if you ask for their input, they won't have to intrude to feel involved.

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