So, here's how to keep your cool at the next family get-together. These tips come from Wayne Dyer, Ph.D. and author of The Power of Intention:
- LFirst, think positive. Before you walk through the door, repeat to yourself: "I am going to feel good"--And say it until you really believe it. It may sound simple--But Dr. Dyer says if you show up expecting a family struggle, you'll probably find one.
- Then, be like Gandhi--In other words, avoid being critical or judgmental. So, every time you're faced with antagonism or rivalry from a sibling, or an aunt, respond with warmth, kindness and civility. You'll be surprised how fast the tension drops.
- Also, get some "alone time." If the family dynamics are about to drive you off the deep end, take a break. Carry an armload of dishes out to the kitchen, and clean a little--Walk around the block--Or jump in the car and take yourself out for a cup of coffee.
- And one final keep-yourself-sane strategy when your family's trying to drive you crazy is, When the bickering starts, don't join in--In fact, don't even pick sides. When you know you don't need to get involved, it gives you the power to sit back and watch the fireworks, instead of getting burned by them.