So, here's how to keep your cool at the next family get-together. These tips come from Wayne Dyer, Ph.D. and author of The Power of Intention:

• LFirst, think positive. Before you walk through the door, repeat to yourself: "I am going to feel good"--And say it until you really believe it. It may sound simple--But Dr. Dyer says if you show up expecting a family struggle, you'll probably find one.
• Then, be like Gandhi--In other words, avoid being critical or judgmental. So, every time you're faced with antagonism or rivalry from a sibling, or an aunt, respond with warmth, kindness and civility. You'll be surprised how fast the tension drops.
• Also, get some "alone time." If the family dynamics are about to drive you off the deep end, take a break. Carry an armload of dishes out to the kitchen, and clean a little--Walk around the block--Or jump in the car and take yourself out for a cup of coffee.
• And one final keep-yourself-sane strategy when your family's trying to drive you crazy is, When the bickering starts, don't join in--In fact, don't even pick sides. When you know you don't need to get involved, it gives you the power to sit back and watch the fireworks, instead of getting burned by them.

If you'd like to go further, the book is The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer.