According to Reuters, a new survey finds that over half of dads either continue to sleep or pretend to be asleep when their baby cries in the middle of the night. And an additional 22% only get up AFTER their wife has already crawled out of bed. It takes anywhere from 5 to 18 months for a baby to sleep through the night. So the lack of support often leaves new moms feeling resentful. On average, they only get about 4 hours of sleep each night.
Elena Dalrimple is the editor of Mother & Baby magazine, which carried out the survey. And she says that when one parent is that sleep-deprived, they’re likely to take their frustration and anger out on their partner. In fact, 60% of the moms she surveyed said their fatigue was putting a huge strain on their marriage. Also, 10% of couples said they were on the verge of splitting up, and 3% already had.
So how can you survive the strain of babyhood? Dalrimple says when the wife gets up to tend to the baby, the husband should get up and tend to her. You’ll both be a little exhausted, but you’re less likely to lash out at one another if you know there’s a mutual support.