She's a psychiatrist who researched different cultures and how they overcome life's hurdles.
So let's start with Italy.
- The Italians have a saying--"Mi arrangio" which literally means "I manage myself" but translates into "I'll make do"--It's their way of shrugging off mistakes and problems by putting things in perspective. You can only work with what you've got, right? By saying this to yourself, you short-circuit negative thoughts which actually promote more problems according to Dr. Mautner. "Mi arrangio" sends a positive 'can-do' message to yourself.
- If you're jealous, do as the Slovakians do. Compliment the person. Let's say you meet your boyfriend's ex at a part and she's gorgeous. Instead of letting envy get the best of you, tell her straight out, "You have a beautiful smile." You will instantly feel better because you've done something positive to counteract those jealous feelings. That alone can restore your self-confidence.
- And one final tip for feeling better--If you're tense and stressed, do what the English do. When the going gets tough, they make a pot of tea. Dr. Mautner says rituals like drinking tea provide a sense of security. They give you a time-out so your can collect your thoughts and regroup and that can actually sharpen your problem solving skills. In fact, a study done by the University of Minnesota found that workers who took regular coffee breaks were more relaxed and productive.