Is texting ruing the art of conversation? A lot of experts say yes.
Some experts insist that communication is communication. And it doesn’t matter whether we talk or text, as long as we stay in touch. But other experts say there are several big problems with texting.
First, an increasing number of people – especially young people - are texting instead of talking to each other, even if they’re in the same house, or the next cubicle. In fact, they often text to avoid talking to each other, especially when it comes to difficult conversations, like “your work isn’t up to par” – or, “I’m breaking up with you.” So, they’re less able to deal with conflict in person.
It’s also creating performance anxiety. Today’s college students are so used to typing what they want to say that they find it incredibly intimidating to stand up in a room full of people and introduce themselves, a skill that’s crucial for the working world, and life in general.
Another problem with a text-only conversation: It’s inherently shallow. Texts are short and sweet.
And often about everyday things, like what time you’ll be home, or sharing a video of your dog.
But you’re missing out on the social cues you get from tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language, which means, there’s no insight into the mind and the mood of the person you’re talking to, like whether they’re sad, mad, or blue. And whether they really need to talk about something deeper and more meaningful.
Texting instead of talking is also putting up a wall between youngsters and oldsters. A recent study found that a lot of twentysomethings rarely communicate with their parents or grandparents – unless their relatives are willing to text, too.
Sounds like it’s time to put away the phone, and practicing talking face to face.