Then think more highly of yourself! Ann Demaris, coauthor of First Impressions: What You Don’t Know About How Others See You, says that people often downplay their abilities because they think it’ll make them more likeable. After all, nobody likes a braggart. Demaris points out that if you keep saying things like, “I’m such a klutz!” or “I’m no expert, but ” people will start to believe you. The result: They’ll think less of you. So, here’s how to project a more positive image, and toot your own horn without having to brag:
- Don’t put yourself down. In other words, don’t say, “This might be a stupid idea but. ” Using disclaimers lowers people’s expectations. Meaning, they’ll expect it to be a stupid idea. Instead, say something upbeat, like: “I have an idea that might work”. That way, they’ll be predisposed to like your idea. Bottom line: When you’re positive, you’ll have more faith in yourself – and so will everyone else.
- Another way to project a positive image: Find a way to publicize your passions. In other words, it won’t sound like bragging if you talk about your passions, and what excites you. It’ll also make you more interesting. Say something like: “I love being creative in the kitchen.” Or “I’m so proud of the woodworking skills I learned from my grandfather.” Even if the person you’re talking to doesn’t cook or build things, they’ll be able to relate to your passion. They’ll also be eager to discuss the things they love, too.
- Don’t spare the details. When someone asks what you’ve been up to, answer by explaining how you overcame a challenge – no matter how small it was. Like, you broke your right foot and had to learn to drive with your left. Or you taught yourself how to retouch old family photos on your computer. By showing that you can overcome any obstacle, you’ll earn plenty of respect from everybody – including yourself.