Are you looking for the secret to “real joy”? That contented feeling you get when you’re truly happy with your life. Well, the secret lies in how you handle the tough stuff that bring us down. It’s easy to be happy on a day when everything goes right, right? So, here are the top 3 things joyful people do when the going gets tough, according to Rick Foster and Greg Hicks, authors of How We Choose to Be Happy:
- First, if you want to be happy, take responsibility for your actions. In other words, when something goes wrong, take the blame for it instead of blaming somebody else. Why? Because you can only change what you’re in control of. So if you’re having a fight with someone, find your role in it and do something about it.
- Next, to be a happy person, you have to intend to be happy. In other words, if you wake up in a bad mood because it’s Monday, you have to shift your perspective. So, force yourself to smile, and find something to look forward to, whether it’s your first cup of coffee, or the smiling face of your best friend at work.
- And finally, when things go wrong, happy people always look for the silver lining. Even though it might take a while to find it. For instance, if you lost your job, it could be your opportunity to do something you really love.
Again, the top 3 things joyful people do are: Take responsibility, be optimistic, and search for the good in the bad. If you’d like to go further, the book is called How We Choose to Be Happy: The 9 Choices of Extremely Happy People by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks.