You’ve heard the old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Well, here’s how to overcome life’s setbacks and disappointments, courtesy of Dr. Beth Miller, author of The Woman’s Book of Resilience:
- Have a pity party. In other words, invite your friends to a “celebrate your failures” bash. And ask them to bring divorce papers, bad credit reports, or scathing job reviews. Why? Once you see that everyone has survived rejection at some point, you’ll have a more positive perspective on things.
- Then, splurge on yourself. Kick-start your optimism by giving yourself a gift that always makes you smile. For example, buy a painting where you and your “ex” went on vacation. It’ll give the place a whole new meaning for you, and always remind you that you’re doing just fine.
- Then, ban the brooding. It’s tempting to hole up and rehash your failure again and again, but that just destroys your creative energy. Instead, crawl out of hiding and ask a pal for feedback. They might be able to nudge you toward a more positive take on the situation.
- Treat it as a step forward. For example, if you got a rejection letter, consider framing it and hanging it somewhere conspicuous – just to prove you’re taking chances and trying to further your career.
- Embrace what you do have. Finding something to celebrate during your darkest hour proves you’re resilient. For example, if all that’s left after a house fire is your set of champagne flutes, gather your family and friends together and drink a toast to the future. It’ll remind you that you can make it through anything with the help of the people who love you most.