Being truly charming means people feel good when you’re around. And it’s the perfect tool to help you reach your career goals and your relationship goals. So, here are a few ways to turn on the charm, courtesy of Fitness magazine:
- If you want to impress someone, make “niceness” your fallback position. In other words, take time to chat with your building super and the dry cleaner about what’s going on in their lives. It shows you’re able to put their happiness ahead of your own agenda. And regularly treating people with respect makes them more willing to go out of their way when you have an emergency.
- Think like a leader. According to the book The Power of Charm, just being “in the know” isn’t charming. You also need to use your knowledge to help other people. It’s the difference between showing off, or using your information to help somebody. For example, if someone you know wants to get their kid into a certain school, instead of boasting, “We live in the same neighborhood as the school principal,” say “The school principal is my neighbor. Why don’t I have a barbecue so you can meet them?” And if you’d like to boost your charm quotient, follow these tips from Jan Hargrave, author of Let Me See Your Body Talk:
- First, go slow. A calm voice and relaxed manner puts people at ease – and they’ll be more likely to open up when they don’t feel rushed.
- Then, adopt a Mona Lisa smile. A half smile is more intimate and less off-putting than a big, high-wattage grin.
- Lean in. Angling your upper body toward someone and maintaining eye contact encourages them to talk.