We all know someone with charisma. A person who lights up the room when they walk in, and instantly seems friendly the minute you talk to them. Well, you don’t have to spend years in charm school to be likeable! Here are a few tips that’ll help you charm anyone. From your in laws to your new boss. Courtesy of Woman’s World Magazine.
- Treat them like an old friend. Psychologist Dr. Rebecca Curtis says emotional warmth makes you instantly likeable because people feel comfortable talking to you. So, when you meet someone, smile and say ‘I’m so glad we met.’ And don’t be afraid of going overboard. Dr. Curtis says you can never be too warm.
- Use their name. Studies show using a person’s name while talking to them can increase your likeability factor by up to 75 percent. Why? Because the familiarity of their own name makes a person feel closer to you. Just make sure you don’t overuse it! One or two times is fine.
- Listen. When others are speaking, many of us don’t pay attention because we’re too busy trying to come up with a clever response. But when it comes to social skills, being a good listener is more important than being witty. Why? Because people like to know you’re paying attention to them. So don’t worry about cracking jokes. Just focus on what the other person is saying.
- Look for common ground. Find ways to connect with the interests and needs of others. So, if your co-worker says she loves comedies, tell her you do too, and then ask which one is her favorite. This’ll get the ball rolling, and before you know it, you’ll not only be the smartest person in the room, you’ll be the most charming.