Guys have their man caves, rooms filled with cushy leather couches, a big screen TV and old sports memorabilia. Well, now ladies want in on the action. According to the Associated Press, a growing number of women are taking over a room in their house, filling it with scented candles, maybe some scrap-booking supplies and a favorite novel and calling it their Mom Cave.

Between child care, house-work, meal preparation, hauling kids around and a job outside the home, moms typically work 15 hours a day, and for some, their mom cave is the only personal space they have. They need it to decompress for a few minutes and do something that’s only for them. Elaine Griffin is an interior designer who’s a big fan of the mom cave idea. She says they’re the ideal place for the woman who nurtures everybody else, to nurture herself. So here are few key design ideas from Griffin if you’re thinking about creating a mom cave of your own.

• First, Griffin says think about color. This room is only for you so if purple tiger-stripes make you happy go for it.
• Next, organization. If your mom cave is small, keeping it organized will make it feel larger. Griffin says get a nice big bookcase and fill it with baskets or boxes. That way all the mess hides in plain site.
• Finally, decoration. Griffin likes to add a few dramatic touches to her rooms, like a velvet throw, but it’s up to you. One woman mentioned in the article decided she wanted a fun, child-like room. So she painted it purple with green polka dots and filled it with childhood collectables and Dr. Seuss books.

The bottom line: your mom cave, your rules.