Are you stressed out? Overwhelmed? Do you feel like you have a million things to do, but nowhere near enough time to take care of everything? Well, according to therapist Carolyn Hobbs, the key to conquering your fears when you're frantic and frazzled is to embrace your anxious feelings. Hobbs says facing your worries allows you to find solutions. Pushing your fears away makes things worse, since you're not solving anything. So here are Hobbs' tips for facing your woes head-on:
- First: accept stress in small doses. Instead of endlessly bemoaning a problem, take a minute to acknowledge your anxieties. So, instead of thinking 'I'm never going to meet this deadline at work!' say to yourself 'I am stressed about this deadline, but I'll get it done if I work hard.' Accepting your fears allows you to work towards a solution, instead of wasting your time worrying. And don't globalize your anxieties. A pending deadline isn't the end of the world, so don't treat it like it is.
- Next: Don't play the victim. Blaming someone else for your problems doesn't allow you to solve them. So ask yourself 'What is my part in creating this situation?' If you realize that the reason you have too much work is because you left everything to the last minute, you'll remember to plan ahead in the future.
- And the final tip for facing your woes head-on: take stock of your success. Take a minute to reflect on past hurdles you overcame. Think something like 'I panicked about that last presentation, but I got it done, and my boss loved it.' Positive thoughts will motivate you to tackle tough projects you're currently facing, and before you know it, you'll have everything done and wonder what you were worried about in the first place!