Are you a freak magnet? You know, someone who attracts bizarre, unwanted attention. Like, the perfect stranger who suddenly kisses your hand, or the kooky-lookin’ dude on the bus who starts reciting his personal “enemy” list. Of course, the burning question is “Why?” Why do freak magnets attract attention. Do they emit a special scent or something?

According to Dr. Doe Lang, psychotherapist and author of The New Secrets of Charisma, some people actually enjoy being freak magnets – because it shows they’ve got the power to attract somebody. Unfortunately, if that somebody is predatory or exploitive, they have a good eye for finding a target. They want someone who looks vulnerable, sympathetic, or like they need attention. And once eye contact is made, the freakiness starts. But if you’re not enjoying the attention, here’s how to freak-proof your life:

• Speak up. If anything seems weird, deal with it immediately. Ask if you’re interpreting a comment or situation correctly. And if you are, let the person know that they’re acting inappropriately, and you’d like it to stop.
• Be aware. Don’t ever act as though you’re lost or bewildered – because that’ll make you a target. Instead, be direct and purposeful when you’re out in public. Also, be alert and somewhat skeptical of strangers – although it doesn’t mean you should distrust everyone.
• Trust your gut. If you get an uncomfortable feeling from someone, take it seriously. It could literally save your life. Don’t engage the person who gives you the creeps, and get away as soon as possible.