Let's talk about online dating deal-breakers. Relationship expert Elizabeth Denham spent 5 years weeding through online dating profiles to come up with a list of red flags. And she says, if you're serious about finding love, you need to weed out people with these traits. So, here we go with online dating red flags:
- The list makers. The people who write everything they don't want on their profile page, or share that info on your first date. The list usually includes liars, cheaters, manipulators, and drug users. But nobody wants to date people like that! The list-makers are either not over their last relationship or they’re describing their history, and are still holding a grudge.
- The woe-is-me attitude. They start saying things like: “I’m leaving you a voicemail – you’re either busy, or avoiding my calls.” Or “I just don't think I’m good enough for you.” Beware! They’re either trying to make you feel guilty or trying to force you tell them – repeatedly – how wonderful they are.
- Beware of the “instant relationshippers.” These are the dates who immediately talk long-term. And they start planning trips, or calling or texting multiple times a day when you’re still in the “let's see if we even like each other” phase. That means they’re desperate for a relationship – any relationship.
- Selfishness. That means someone who doesn’t ask any questions about you or whose needs always come first. Our expert says this person wants an audience – not a relationship.
- If someone starts a phrase with the word “technically,” run! “Technically” is the first word used before a lie, however small. Let's say on their dating profile a woman says she's divorced. Then, you meet and you ask how long she's been divorced. If she says, "Technically, I'm not divorced. But we might as well be. We just have to sign the papers." Stop right there – she's already lied to you. And no lie is too small to ignore.